Best Kept Secret in Canada! @BigWhite Resort Offers Champagne Powder & Amazing Family Skiing! via @TheGoToMom
It truly is the best reason to ski there… Or to take your family “It’s the snow!” I had the pleasure of traveling to B.C. to meet up with a fine group of mom bloggers Kim Marie of LuxuryTravelMom, Andrea Fellman of SavvySassyMoms and Claudia Laroye of TheTravellingMom – Big White Resort’s bountiful, dry powder is legendary and was awarded “Best Powder” by Ski Canada Magazine in 2008! As a family resort, they put a high premium on your safety and want to keep you happy while you enjoy the slopes. You will see the daily “Slow Zones” that make it easy for beginners and people that want to take it slow and also have Safety Tips for using the resort and helping you to watch out for any little hazards Mother Nature may put in your path. Having skied there, I can honestly say it is clearly the best Champagne Powder I’ve ever experienced. Wowza… It was so cool to get our very own knowledgeable Snow Hosts for a free mountain tour to unlock the secrets of Big White – they were so patient with us, you know how unruly mom bloggers can be! They put up with us stopping frequently to take pictures or to Tweet. With 18 on-mountain restaurants, cafes, delis, pubs and nightclubs, there is no shortage of places to relax or replenish your energy level when it’s time for a break. The #MomsOnSnow enjoyed luxurious lunch, drinks and delicious dinner at Kettle Valley Steak House, Carvers and after dinner ‘on-fire” coffee at The Gunbarrel Grill. To thoroughly enjoy the BC Okanagan Valley’s offerings, be sure to savour some famous local wines. Or you stay in and snuggle up with your family… Be sure and order your groceries and they’ll have them delivered to your chalet before you arrive.
Kids’ Centre at Big White Ski Resort
When all you want to do is get up on the mountain, you don’t want to be worrying about your kids. So why not drop them at a place where they will have the time of their lives, and you can ski or board all day long worry free! Ski Canada rates our centre as the “Best Resort Feature for Kids in Canada” and the UK’s London Daily Mail rated it one of the top five in the world! Big White is the ultimate kids’ playground, a fun and safe environment featuring wide open runs, perfect for learning new skills that can get your children up and around the resort.
The Go-To Mom Production lift tickets, meals, airfare and accommodations were provided by Big White Resort for the production of this episode. Kimberley Blaine will only promote, endorse and support companies she believes to have the highest standards in products and/or services that contribute to the well-being of families with young children.
GUEST POST BY Dr. Shefali Tsabary in association with the Movie www.supportmiltonsecret.com
To parent consciously is to become aware that the parenting process evokes for us many issues from our own childhood. In fact, our children come into our lives to trigger these issues, functioning as a mirror of our own unresolved past. By parenting consciously, we see ourselves reflected through our children’s ways of behaving and the conflicts we experience as parent and child.
Our children may be small and powerless in terms of living independent lives, but they are mighty in their potential to be our life’s greatest awakeners…
“Awakeners.”I like this term because it speaks directly to our children’s potential to raise our consciousness to new levels.When we begin to notice exactly how they do this, we are in awe.When I speak of becoming “conscious” as parents, I’m not talking about a sudden epiphany, for the insights our children bring to us are hardly ever stumbled upon in the extraordinary.Rather, it’s in the most ordinary of moments, and often the most humbling situations, that our children’s capacity for kindling our consciousness is revealed. Everyday routines can become a window onto the ways in which, as parents, we have yet to grow up.
It’s usually in situations involving conflict that we tend to glimpse aspects of our behavior that are originating from a lack of awareness. This is why, instead of shying away from conflict, perhaps even denying that there is conflict, I encourage parents to accept the inevitability of conflict, then use the insights that can emerge from such situations to awaken themselves to the growth that still needs to take place in them.
The reason we don’t tend to see the opportunities for growth that are children afford us is that we have a tendency to blame our children for the things that aren’t working in our relationship with them. We then resort to dictating to them, trying to control them, attempting to set them straight.
The last thing we are expecting is for such moments to offer us an opportunity for our own spiritual development. Yet if we are willing to open our eyes, our children constantly reflect back to us things about ourselves that need to change.
Take, for example, the mother who complains that she loses her temper with her children when it’s time to get ready for school because they “never listen,” and consequently arrive late for class. It might seem that such a parent needs to teach her children to pay attention—and in some cases this may be true. But what if the mother were to explore her own behavior, for instance examining whether she herself is disorganized and tends to be tardy, particularly in the mornings? Perhaps she’s not naturally a “morning person.” The conscious approach to parenting shifts the focus away from what our children need to change, to aspects of ourselves that may need to be addressed.
A conscious way of parenting begins with asking ouselves, “Do I need to revisit the way I operate? Are there ways I need to restructure my life so I can be more organized for my children?” Where a certain level of disorganization may have been acceptable before we became a parent, we now realize that such chaos is simply too confusing for a child.
Being more organized may seem like such a small thing. Surely this can’t be the answer to why our children are late? Yet it’s precisely these “small” things that have the potential to create many a dysfunctional pattern in a family.
Consider the eight-year-old child who has inexplicably become a social recluse, refusing to go to school or play with his friends. His parents are at a loss for what to do. Experts have been called in to “fix” the child, yet the situation persists. Profession intervention may indeed be necessary in some cases, what about first turning the focus onto the parents?
When the parents put the spotlight on themselves, the mother discovers that she herself went through a traumatic period when she was around seven years old. She was in a car accident in which her father died, witnessing the whole tragedy firsthand. For the next two years, she became selectively mute. In other words, what we are dealing with here is a generational pattern of anxiety, passed on from mother to son.
These are just two examples, one seemingly superficial and the other more serious, of the ways in which our children tell us, “Wake up, look at yourself, transform yourself, heal yourself. Do this for you, so that I may be free of what burdens you.”
Our children have the ability to awaken us to our tardiness, our obsessiveness, our anxiety, our need for perfection, our desire for control, our inability to say “yes” or “no” and mean it, our neediness, our marital troubles, and even our addictions.Perhaps one of the biggest lessons we can learn from our children is how to simply be “still,” which is something many of us have a hard time with. Along with this goes the ability to engage with full-on presence, to be intuitive, and especially to be authentic. We can even learn what it is to be open, spontaneous, playful. The list of opportunities for growth that our children bring into our lives is almost endless. If our eyes are open, we will see our unconsciousness at work in how they act and react to us, as well as in how we act and react to them.
It comes down to awakening to the fact that parenting isn’t so much about raising of our children, but beginning to act like real parents by first raising ourselves.
Dr. Shefali Tsabary, is a clinical psychologist with a private practice in New York. Her specialty is in the integration of Eastern philosophy and Western psychology. It is this blend of East and West that allows her to reach a global audience, and establishes her as one of a kind in the field of mindfulness psychology. Namaste Publishing will release her second book, Out of Control: Why Disciplining Your Child Doesn’t Work and What Will in January, 2014. Shefali has spoke at events and plays an advisory role to the Milton’s Secret production team.
The holidays are right around the corner, but are you prepared? The Go-To Mom, Kimberley Clayton Blaine, stopped by CBS KCAL9 in Los Angeles to spill her secrets for preparing for the holidays on a budget. Some gifts cost very little, like this awesome holiday chain that your kids write custom messages to the ones they love. Grandma and Grandpa love this! Take a look and get your creative ideas flowing!