Preschool Whisperer Tip – How To Deal with the Whining

Whining is a normal part of the four to seven year old’s life, and it’s probably one of the most annoying behaviors for adults to have to encounter.  Children whine for many reasons: when they’re tired, hungry, bored, and lonely or when they need a little love and attention.  It’s important to encourage children to reduce their whining when they’re young; you don’t want them to use whining as a form of communication as they get older. Looking for patterns is key.  Your child may whine if you take them on errands that are close to lunch or naptime, if you haven’t heard their first request — or if they’re overdressed and can’t express their discomfort.  When children wake up they’re often discombobulated and whine because they’re not fully awake.  Don’t take it personally, just be patient and offer a healthy snack and love.

Ask your child to use their ‘regular’ voice because it’s hard to understand them when they speak in that tone. Thank them for speaking normally to you – let them know you truly appreciate it. If they love to whine, because sometimes it has a cathartic release, tell them they can whine in the privacy of their own room. But you really need them to use their regular voice when they need you.

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