Drama is a distraction from personal pain: Come from a space of peace and you’ll find you can deal with anything
“Come from a space of peace and you’ll find you can deal with anything.” Michael Singer
Life will always be paradoxical. For many reasons and in many ways life experiences will offer up the sweetest of blissful moments and at the same time the deep sadness of mourning. One minute you can be holding an innocent baby or you could be holding your father’s hand as he takes his last breath. In any circumstance you are the beholder of the inner-self who gets to decide where your true joy resides. As Eckhart Tolle says, “Wherever you are, be there totally. If you find you’re here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally. If you want to take responsibility for your life, you must choose one of those three options, and you must choose now. Then accept the consequences.”
Staying strong is important no matter what your circumstances. Recently I have lost a family member, held my sister’s hand through surviving cancer, have admitted a loved one to a psychiatric unit and sent another to jail, then watched my husband go through invasive surgery and personally struggled with financial concerns. One can be mentally proactive and live, strive and be strong enough to step up to the plate of life or one can whimper, whine and give up. When things go wrong and when a crisis arises it’s easy to jump into it and wallow. I have not had an easy life and I have to continually remind myself that drama is just a distraction from personal pain and that I am so much bigger than that. I have the intelligence and drive to push up from the soil and grow. I owe it to myself and to my children. As my friend, Panache Desai writes, “When things go bad the best solution is to redirect your unconscious behavior. We all have an energy, experience, or emotion we are hiding from in life. Fear, confrontation, shame, anger, and sadness are always lurking behind our coiled roots. Everyone has a raw nerve or dire situation that triggers a hasty retreat for the safety of his or her most comforting distractions. Distractions are the unconscious, repetitive, often self-destructive cycles of behavior that rob you of living your soul signature. “ Panache’s book and posts are good reminder that we are in the right place in our life at this very moment. See his work here.
I’ve also learned that in the midst of hellish moments I can still be happy and that life goes on… and that life is good overall. Challenging situations come and go, but life now, for me is always filled with an underlining of joy. Esther (Abraham) Hicks words ring in my head… She says, “Under any and all conditions, you can be happy. But happy has to be the goal. And the condition will take a second place to it. And then the happy will cause the condition to morph. You have to decide, are you creating what you’re creating for others’ adulation? Are you creating what you’re creating for your own alignment and joy? You just have to make that decision. And once you’ve decided it’s for your own alignment and joy, then you show yourself that, no matter what, you can feel good now. No matter what, you can feel good now. No matter what, you can feel good now. And sometimes enough has to happen to make you miss not feeling good long enough that you put the feeling good as your top priority. But it’s our promise, once you put feeling good as your top priority, everything else will fall into place, because you have the ability to feel good no matter what. No matter what.”
I have found The Untethered Soul: Twelve-Step Guide to Spiritual Awakening a great resource. It’s by Michael Singer, he talks about how to go about transcending the personal self and awakening to spiritual freedom — What is needed for this journey are succinct steps that are so universal that they can echo through the halls of any religion as well as support intellectual understanding. The following is a universal road map to Self Realization featured in his column in the Huffington Post.
Quotes that inspire and lift your soul…
You didn’t come into this experience to meditate. You came into this experience to live. You didn’t come into this experience just to create vibrational Vortexes, and then to croak in order to realize what’s in there. You came to create it and to create and atmosphere to allow it into your experience. You expected full fruition and manifestation of the things that you want. You’re supposed to be living your fortunes, you’re supposed to be spending them. You’re supposed to be driving your cars. You’re supposed to me making love with each other. You’re supposed to be having a full, tactile, see it, hear it, smell it, taste it, touch it physical experience. That’s what you came for, you see? But you can’t there unless first you choose alignment with Who-You-Really-Are… because when only part of you has shown up, it’s not a very happy party. – Abraham Hicks
At any given moment, you have the power to say: This is not how the story is going to end. -Christine Mason Miller
We fear violence less than our own feelings. Personal, private, solitary pain is more terrifying than what anyone else can inflict. – Jim Morrison
Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go. -Hermann Hesse
You will get to the point where you will wonder why you were ever worried about anything ever. -Abraham Hicks
If you’re not selfish enough to want to feel good, then you can’t connect with the energy that is your source which does always feel good. -Abraham Hicks
Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worse kind of suffering. -Paulo Coelho
Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it. –Kevyn Aucoin
The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love. -Hubert H. Humphre
An intelligent person is never afraid or ashamed to find errors in his understanding of things. -Bryant H. McGill
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. –Buddha
To love means loving the unlovable. To forgive means pardoning the unpardonable. Faith means believing the unbelievable. Hope means hoping when everything seems hopeless. Gilbert K. Chesterton
Bravery is believing in yourself, and that thing nobody can teach you. -El Cordobes
One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain. -Bob Marley
The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world. -Marianne Williamson
Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny. -Mahatma Gandhi
