Teaching Your Young Child How to Share

Most parents want to raise their children to be kind and to share when playing with others. When your toddler refuses to share her toys, she isn’t really being selfish — she’s just acting her age. Sharing is a skill that is developed over time. In the meantime, struggles over toys will be common.

If your child is two or younger, diversion and redirection will be the most effective strategy. Children learn how to share from their parents and their siblings. They pay attention to your actions and they will follow your lead. So if you share, they’ll eventually learn to share. Play side by side with your child and get them accustomed to sharing with you. Share toys, your food or any other items that are safe for them to explore.

Teach your child sharing words:
“Let’s take turns”
“Would you like a try?”
“Can you share?”

If you child is 3 years old or older, and you want to avoid tantrums over sharing, let your child hide a few of his favorite playthings before his friends arrive. Tell him these are toys he doesn’t have to share. Let your child know that the toys that are left out are for everyone.  Never punish a child for not sharing and don’t make a big deal out of it. You don’t want sharing to become a power struggle. When he doesn’t share, you can step in and speak for him, once again you are modeling compassion and a behavior that you’d like your child to display.

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