Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been

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Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been. -Mark Twain

March is my birth month.  The sensitive Pisces.  I’m 50 this month and can’t believe how life has happened so fast.  My husband always tells my boys, “Don’t ever ask a lady’s age or weight.”  I laugh and think, why?  Because she’ll feel ‘lesser than’ others?  All dried up and aged so she’s no longer ripe for the picking?  As long as women in the 40’s – 50’s feel their time is up, it will be up… Women need to flaunt, wave in the air and shout out just how glorious mid- life can be.  The beauty of growing a few years older brings many life lessons and humble beginnings.  The second half of life you don’t have to try so hard, you’ve put in your time and know what’s most valued in life!  Play is of utmost importance it wards off disease and keeps you physically and mentally alert.  When I was in my 30’s I took advantage of many perks of youth, such as fast metabolism, no gray hair and smooth skin and minimal facial lines.   I didn’t realize at the time how my physical appearance would change.  I also didn’t think that I needed much self-improvement.   But as my career was unfolding  I was emotionally unequipped to deal with the intense demands of some of my work.  I didn’t take it stride because I needed to do more in-depth personal growth to thrive in a competitive space.  Sometimes youth cheats you because it gives you more time — time delay what’s really important.   Today I look at at my gray hairs (which I despise) and the creases around my eyes as badges of honor.  I say honor because it wasn’t until recently that I truly realized how honored I am to be here. Yes, aging brings the inevitable sagging, hair loss and re-alignment of body fat, BUT, if you take care of yourself and believe your soul deserves to live in total health, you’ll find a way.

So today on my day of birth I promise to look age in the eye and say, “Screw you. You have absolutely no power over my happiness. You have no bearing on my commitment to how I keep my body energized and potent.  The lines that grow deep around my eyes and mouth are from endless hours of laughing and living.  I won’t fall prey to believing that women my age should always look photo-shopped or have to fit into size 3 jeans.  I’m aware and know that real happiness is built from within no matter how old you are and real beauty is all about how much self-love you have.  I’m pretty sure that walking into a room blissfully, not caring what other’s think, shoots your beauty up 10-fold.  Showing others you’re genuinely interested while giving them love and undivided attention makes you more beautiful than any make-up could.  So in the next years, as I approach the big 50 – I say bring it on baby – I’m ready to knock your socks off!”

Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul.  -Samuel Ullman

We are always the same age inside.  – Gertrude Stein

Nature gives you the face you have at twenty; it is up to you to merit the face you have at fifty.  -Coco Chanel

You can’t help getting older, but you don’t have to get old.  – George Burns

I think your whole life shows in your face and you should be proud of that. -Lauren Bacall

Age does not protect you from love. But love, to some extent, protects you from age.  -Jeanne Moreau

Old age is no place for sissies.   -Bette Davis

Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.  –Henry Ford



  1. by Charlene Ross on March 23, 2015  5:48 pm Reply

    As someone turning 50 in a few months (yikes!), this really spoke to me. I too hate the gray hair, but I don't mind the wrinkles as much. (Most days.) But the inelasticity of my skin (especially on my arms)?! Well, we won't talk about that today!
    Hope you had a wonderfully happy birthday!

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